Wednesday, October 30, 2019

Feminine Skin Care Routine for Healthy, Glowing and Radiant Skin


Gone are the days when I used to struggle with dry skin during the cooler months. Today, I am sharing my feminine skin care routine for healthy, glowing, supple and radiant skin.
















In-Shower Routine
Soap and Shower Gels: For the shower, I use a bar soap or shower gel. When buying shower soaps or shower gels, I look for non-toxic products with moisturizing properties like olive oil, oats, jojoba oil, etc. I buy my favorite bar soaps from Whole Foods, TJ Maxx, Home Goods and Amazon. I buy my shower gels from Rituals.







Body Scrubs: I love to scrub in the shower to get rid of dead skin cells and revel fresh, healthy and radiant skin. I use sugar body scrubs from Rituals.




I also scrub the skin on my vagina with a more gentle scrub from European Wax Center called Cheeky Strut. Not only does this remove dead skin cells on the skin, it also prevents ingrown hair for women who wax.



Post Shower Routine
Towel: When I get out of the shower, I pat my skin dry with a towel or allow it to air dry. I avoid rubbing the towel as this may be too hard on the skin.






Ingrown Hair Serum: When my skin is dry, I apply European Wax Center's in grown hair serum on the skin on my vagina. In addition to preventing ingrown hair, the serum also moisturizes the skin leaving it soft and supple.






Body Moisturizer: After the serum, I move on to moisturize my body with a body lotion/moisturizer. When buying moisturizers for my body I look for nontoxic products with highly moisturizing properties. My favorite body moisturizer is from lush called Charity Pot. Charity Pot is very moisturizing, nontoxic vegan and cruelty free like all lush products.






Body Oil: Finally, I use a body oil to seal the moisture in. I usually mix the body oil with my moisturizer. This combination leaves my skin, glowing and radiant.






What are some feminine techniques or products you use to keep your skin healthy, glowing and radiant? Please share in the comments, I love to discover new feminine products and techniques.






Thank you for stopping by.


Au-revoir,

Deb

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Friday, October 25, 2019

DVF Francine Colorblock Wrap Dress


The best style and fashion decision I made in 2019 was to sign up for Rent the Runway on my birthday as a birthday gift to myself. Not only does Rent the Runway make fashion affordable for me it is also a revolutionary concept for recycling. Needless to say this beautiful DVF wrap dress was a recent rent/borrow from Rent the Runway. I wore this dress to work and the men in the Financial District could not stop staring at me. The color, the material, the cut, the fact that it is wrapped makes very feminine and seductive in a very classy way. I absolutely adore this dress. I hate that I had to return it today because I need to clear my slot to borrow looks for Halloween. I am considering buying this dress. It is actually at a discount at Nordstrom rack.









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How Fibroid Changed My Life




I had fibroid removal surgery in May 2019 and the experience changed my life for the better.


For those who are not familiar with fibroid, it is a benign tumor that grows in a woman's uterus. The symptoms differ from woman to women and they include heavy bleeding, painful periods, and may affect a women's ability to get pregnant and give birth.


Wearing DVF Francine Wrap Dress
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Tuesday, October 22, 2019

Are Limiting Beliefs Affecting Your Romantic Relationships?



Today we are going to have a conversation about limiting beliefs, also known as self-defeating beliefs,  and how they affect romantic relationships. If you are a millennial, I am sure you may have heard of the term limiting belief circling around ---- If you are not a millennial do not feel left out, it will all make sense at the end. While doing research for this article, I came across the simplest definition and explanation of a limiting belief from Allison Fallon’s blog https://allisonfallon.com/limiting-beliefs/ and it reads, “a limiting belief is something you believe to be true about yourself, about others and about the world that limits you in some way. These beliefs may hold you back from taking chances, keep you blind to opportunities  in your path, prevent you from accepting gifts offered to you, or simply keep you stuck focusing on the negative aspect of your circumstances.” I really love the fact that she included this line in her article because I could not have wrote it better, “The challenge with limiting beliefs is most of us don’t think we have them and they can be really hard to spot.  In this article, I will help you to become aware of the limiting beliefs affecting your romantic relationships and get rid of them.

 
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How to Spot Limiting Beliefs Affecting Romantic Relationships

 

I shared my story in details about how I did this myself in my book, Rewrite your History: A Personal Guide to Freedom available on Kindle as an e-book; you can also purchase a paperback copy on Amazon. In my work on myself, I found out that the limiting beliefs affecting my romantic relationships were stemming from my parents relationship. Yours could be from your single girlfriends, a family member, an advisor, your ex, your current romantic partner or a friend you trust. It can also come from the music you listen to, the TV shows you watch or any other form of media you consume. The following is a list of some of the limiting beliefs you may have: there are no good men out there; all men are liars and cheaters; all men will cheat; (expletive) ain’t shit; men will always leave; rich men (people) are evil; I’m going to be lonely for the rest of my life.

 

This is a very limited list but if you believe any of these lines, any variation of these ideas, any negative beliefs that you have surrounding romantic relationships are limiting beliefs that will in turn create life experiences aligned with those beliefs and ideas. For example, if you believe that there are no good men out there, all the men showing up in your life experiences will behave badly or show you that they are no good because that is what you are creating in your thoughts. Those same men could go to a woman who does not have these beliefs and he will act totally different towards her. The next time you say or think something negative towards romantic relationship, ask yourself if it is something you would like to experience in your reality.

 

How to Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs Affecting Romantic Relationships

 

In order to get rid of limiting beliefs, you have to create new beliefs. But how are beliefs formed or created anyways? According to Skilled at Life (http://www.skilledatlife.com/how-beliefs-are-formed-and-how-to-change-them/) , beliefs are generally formed in two ways: by our personal life experiences, conclusions, deductions and inferences; or by accepting what others tell us to be true.” For example, if you have the belief that there aren’t any good men out there” maybe you think your father is not a good man which would be a conclusion you created based on your perception of your life experience with your father. From that belief about your father, you attracted men who are no good throughout your dating experiences. Maybe you read posts multiple times on Facebook about how bad men are which is an example of believing what someone tell us (the world on Facebook). Maybe you see how badly men behave on your favorite reality TV shows or movies and you are in turn creating the same experience in your reality.

 

How to Form New Beliefs on Romantic Relationships

 

Now that we know how to create or form a belief we are going to create empowering beliefs that will propel our romantic lives forward. I would recommend starting with repeating positive phrases about relationships to yourself. You can also form new beliefs with repetition and affirmations. The bible and most religious text teach us the power in what we speak and our thoughts. When you start to speak those words, you will start to create the positive romantic relationship experiences in your life which will serve as a form of life experience. The more you do this, the more you will create positive romantic relationship experiences and before you know it, you have created a new belief system on romantic relationships. So to do this I would recommend the following lines, any positive lines you can imagine or positive romantic experiences you want to create in your life:

  • I always have the best time on a date
  • I am in love with a man who loves, spoils and adores me
  • My man is very caring
  • Men love to spoil me
  • I am married to my dream man
In a relationship you can find creative ways to use those lines with your man, make sure it is sincere and at the right time. For example, if he brought you food from some place, you can say, honey you are so caring, thank you for feeding me. Watch how he reacts in that moment and watch him try to do more little things for you because he loves to hear those words.

 

If you are not in a relationship, you can still use those lines or any positive combinations you can come up with. When you repeat those positive, kind and loving words pay attention to your heart and how it feels. Practice is key. It took many years for you to create the beliefs you have now, it will take practice to get a new belief system on romantic relationships.

 

Consume Positive Media about Romantic Relationships

 

Finally, I would recommend consuming positive media about romantic relationships. I know it may be hard to do this and it will take a lot of will power but positive media on romantic relationships are out there and you should consider consuming more of them. I am not talking about the Disney type where your prince charming will ride on a horse to come save you, I am talking about non magical positive media about romantic relationships. For example, listening to positive beautiful love songs made a huge impact in my journey to get rid of the limiting beliefs I had about romantic relationships.

 

Please share your stories with us and If you have any suggestions about anything you did to get rid of limiting beliefs affecting your romantic relations, leave them in the comments below.

  
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Saturday, October 12, 2019

Where to Brunch in New York Like the Locals



Where do people put on their cute outfits, leave their house to eat breakfast foods and make a religion out of it? Do not answer that question, it was a rhetorical question. So you want to brunch like a New Yorker?  You have a cute outfit? Sunglasses if you had a long night before or not?  You are ready to brunch like a New Yorker?  Alright, let’s go to the restaurants where New Yorkers brunch!

1. Upland
Located at Park Avenue South, Upland is a New York favorite. They serve delicious food and drinks. The crowd at Upland is very New York with a few savvy tourists. 

2. Friend of a Farmer
When you walk in Friend of a Farmer it feels like you walk home when your mother is cooking a delicious meal because of the dim lights and the odor of savory goodness. I love this place. The food is delicious and tastes fresh. They also have a great selection of juices that I love. Again the crowd here is very New York with a few savvy tourists.

3. Jajajaja NYC
I am not sure how many ja-s are in jajaja but this vegan Mexican place is another New York favorite especially for vegans 🌱 . The drinks are very good as well.

4. By Chloe 
The popular vegan fast food chain has great options for a laid back vegan brunch experience. By Chloe is one of my personal favorite vegan 🌱 restaurants in NYC. I recommend the original Restaurant on Bleecker Street, the one at the Seaport District or the one in Soho on Lafayette Street. The one at 20th Street is not clean at times. The crowd at By Chloe restaurants may be more touristy than all of the other restaurants in this list, thanks to food ordering apps and Uber eats. Believe me when I tell you that most Vegan 🌱 New Yorkers eat By Chloe.

5. The Rooftop Restaurant at Restoration Hardware
The home-furnishing giant got it right with their genius marketing plight, a rooftop bar and restaurant at the top of their beautifully decorated store in the meat packing district is a win! They do not take reservations at this restaurant. The food is quite basic but go for the beautiful decor, drinks and a salad or avocado toast. Peruse the entire store for beautiful decor and design while you wait to be called or after brunch! This rooftop restaurant is absolutely stunning!

Now that you have brunche-d like a New Yorker, you are officially a New Yawkah. Congratulations!



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Friday, October 11, 2019

9 Subtle Things I Did to Become More Feminine


Bonjour, Bonsoir,


Welcome to the blog. Today I am sharing 9 subtle things I did to become more feminine.




I shared the video above on my YouTube Channel a few months ago where I shared 5 things I did to become more feminine but I wanted to update the list and share four additional things that I have been doing on my journey to honing and embracing my feminine side.



1. Stop Swearing


I used to have a potty mouth. I went through a rebellious phase because I grew up in a strict and religious household. When I was on my own I used bad language as a subconscious symbol of freedom. I used to tell myself that I am grown, I can speak how I want but I realized it is not ladylike. I gave up the swearing. There are times when using bad language is necessary and appropriate but using bad language regularly for unnecessary reason is not feminine.

2. Wear More Feminine Colors


Pastel colors, reds, pinks, whites, corals, camel are very feminine colors. Feminine colors are colors that a masculine man would not typically wear. I try to avoid wearing too much masculine colors like black, brown, or navy. I live in New York and I sometimes wear those masculine colors in the winter but when I do, I make sure to rock my red lipstick to add some femininity to the look. I used to hate pink, but I have been slowly incorporating some blush pink into my wardrobe and I absolutely love. Blush pink looks beautiful on every skin and I think every woman should incorporate some blush pink in her closet. I am not a candy pink kind of girl but no other colors make me feel more feminine and girly than pink.

3. Avoid Wearing Masculine Clothes   

I explained this in 2. I want to reiterate that when I do wear black or any masculine colored clothing. I add other feminine touches like a red lipstick. When I wear pants, I wear light and feminine colored pants.

    4. Speaking Slowly

    English is my third language and I get anxious every time I have to speak for a long time. When that happens I rush through the words and sentences to get it over with. I have been learning to take my time to speak slowly and really articulate what I want to say. Rushing is a masculine trait. If you think of any woman that you know who is very feminine, watch how they speak. You will notice that there is a calmness in their voice and the speed at which they speak is usually slow. That is so beautiful and ultra feminine.
5. Speaking Less

I can talk for days. One of my new year’s resolutions for 2019 was to speak less. A true feminine woman speaks when necessary, a lot of time her presence and body language does most of the speaking for her.

    6. Smiling More
A smile is very feminine and beautiful. It brightens up everyone’s faces. I usually smile when I am taking photos because I am usually goofing around and joking with my friends or photographers but when I am alone, commuting and there is no one to speak or engage with my resting face could be intimidating. I have been making a conscious effort to smile at strangers.


    7. Walking Slowly
If you live in a big fast paced city like New York where I live it is daunting to walk slowly in a crowd of runners and rushers. Nothing screams feminine more than a slow, sexy walk, lol… I try to do it as often as possible especially when I am wearing heels. I leave my house early so that I give myself enough time to walk slowly instead of running or rushing to my destinations.

8. Wearing Heels Everyday


I know it sounds daunting but I have been wearing heels since I was a teenager and I absolutely love the way it makes me look taller, it makes my bum and legs look nice and toned. At some point I got lazy and stopped wearing heels and I blamed it on getting older. Now I make sure I wear heels everyday even if it is just a kitten heel.
9. Looking People in the Eye

I grew up in Haiti and looking people in the eye can be considered rude as a child. I kept that same mentally as an adult. In America where I currently live, it is very important to look people in the eye, it is a sign of respect and confidence.




If you have any subtle things that you have done to become more feminine, please share in the comments below. We would love to learn from you.


Au-Revoir,
Deb


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