Thursday, November 21, 2019

Career Advice from Oprah

Career Advice from Oprah



On this beautiful Thursday, I wanted to share an inspirational interview that Oprah participated in at Stanford University. For me, the interview was focused on career and making career decisions. This may be my limited view on it because I am at a time where I am making major career decisions.

 

My biggest takeaway from the interview is this, we are all striving to be the best and highest version of ourselves. When we find out who we are at the core, connect to our core and listen to our inner voice we inevitably become the best and highest version of ourselves and we can use this in any and every career path we choose.

 




Oprah articulated my idea of who I am and what I am here to do very clearly in this interview. I always knew that I was different from most people that I come in contact with, the way I see things differently, the way I relate to people differently and for a long time I have been afraid of that because I thought if I am not like them and I don’t think like them they won’t like me and I will miss out on the opportunity to feel like I belong which is something we all strive for. But now I am seeing clearly that, that very thing is my gift. It is my gift to the world to present and share ideas that may not be similar to yours or the people I come in contact with but I still want the people I share my ideas with to be able to hear me even if they don’t understand or cannot relate immediately. My role here on this earth is to share ideas of self-empowerment with my generation that they may not have heard of or have been exposed to. For example in my book, "Rewrite your History" – I presented the idea that the same way we can manifest good things like wealth, love and prosperity with the Law of Attraction is the same way we manifest the bad things in our lives like misery, despair and poverty with the law of attraction. The law of attraction is always working whether we know it or not, whether we believe it or not. We are attracting every interaction, every circumstance, every relationship, every job, every family circumstance, everything you can think of in your life you have attracted and are attracting.

 

Oprah mentioned intentions and credited her show becoming great because she set intentions and decided which show to choose based on the intentions of that show. When you “Rewrite your History” you become intentional about what you are attracting in your life. When you “Rewrite your History” life doesn’t just happen to you, you tell life what you want it to do in alignment with who you are. It’s like getting behind the wheel of a car to the destination of your best/highest self and directing the places where you want to go, where you stop, the snacks you buy on the way there, and everything in between. When you “Rewrite your History”, you know that you do not have to stop at the stop light that some other person created because that is not part of your route or journey to your destination to the best and highest version of yourself. Also, the fact that she mentioned listening to your inner voice a few times in the interview and how important it is gave me the validation I needed to promote “Rewrite your History” because in the book when I shared the steps to write your new story AKA “Rewrite your History,” listening to your inner voice is one of the steps I suggested. Who am I coming up with ideas that the Oprah herself finds important?

 

I am typing those words feeling like I am speaking to myself and giving myself that advice, God knows I need it now. Anyways, let me know in the comments what is coming up for you while watching the interview. I always find it interesting and fascinating the way two people may watch the same interview or listen to the same song but receive completely different messages.

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Monday, November 18, 2019

5 Steps To Get Rid of Ashy Skin this Winter Season

5 Steps To Get Rid of Ashy Skin this Winter Season


Today I am sharing my 5 step system to get rid of dry and ashy skin for the winter season. I shared a more in depth skin care post here that you might enjoy.
1. Use non-toxic shower gels, soaps and moisturizers or body lotions because nontoxic products do not have harsh chemicals that will dry out your skin.
 
2. Look for shower gels, soaps and moisturizers or body lotions that have moisturizing properties in them like oats, shea butter, coconut oil, olive oil, jojoba oil or any other moisturizing properties you can think of like @edenbodyworks ‘s trio (a body wash, body lotion and hand cream) that is infused with coconut oil, shea butter and vitamin E.








3. Use a body scrub 2 to 3 times a week
 
4. Mix your body lotion with a body oil

5. Keep a good hand cream in your handbag. I love @EdenBodyworks hand cream, not only is it moisturizing, it also smells very natural. it smells like shea butter and coconut, I cannot stop sniffing my hands every time I apply it.


This blogpost is in collaboration with Eden Body Works. When Eden Body Works reached out to me about the trio the first question I asked was are the products non-toxic. Not only did I find out that they were non-toxic, I also learned that their products are all natural and cruelty free.


Eden’s bodyworks is available at edenbodyworks.com , Walmart, Amazon, Target and Sally Beauty, Rite Aid, CVS #glowingallyear

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Tuesday, November 5, 2019

How to Style White Boots

How to Style White Boots




When I initially noticed white boots trending last winter, I thought Meh… not my style, too trendy. But After seeing it for the millionth time, I wanted to give it a try. Today, I will share my tips and tricks to style and class up the white boots that I recently picked up from amazon and hopefully inspire you to give the white boots trend a try.
1. Monochromatic White 




The white after labor day conversation is for amateurs, we do not speak on that here, lol. A monochromatic look is a look that contains one color. A monochromatic look is always a win, whenever you want to look effortlessly chic and put together. White on white is super chic. When doing a monochromatic white look you can play with different textures and different shades of white.

 2. Feminine Silhouettes




Sometimes the white boots look can look like a cowgirl chic look even if the boot itself is not a cowboy boot. To make sure my white boots look does not make me look like a cowgirl, I pair it with feminine silhouettes like the skirt in the image above or the skirt suit look in the image below.

 3. Feminine Colors




When I saw Zara selling white boots for about $200, I thought it was too expensive for something that I would be limited to pairing with my white looks. However, when I got my pair of white boots from Amazon and decided to try it with feminine colors, it looked great with them.

 4. Neutral Color




White boots look amazing with other neutral colors like camel, grey, beige, and black. Personally, I would wear a monochromatic look with a neutral color and add the white boots as a pop. For example I would wear a monochromatic grey look or a monochromatic black look with the white boots.

 

Petite Girl Tip: Avoid wearing white boots with short dresses, short skirts, short pants or short jackets it will make you look even shorter.

 

Did you trying the white boots trend? If so, please share your styling tips and tricks, we would love to learn from you.

OUTFIT DETAILS

Look 1
Off White Sweater Skirt and Top: Zara
Gold Belt: Zara
Red Bag: Zac Posen

Look 2
Check Print Mini Skirt Suit: &otherstories
Golden White Wide Brim Hat: Lack of Color
Red Bag: Mackage

Look 3
Pink Coat: Tahari from Nordstrom Rack
White Hat: Lack of Color
Sunglasses: Rayban (Style: Aviator)

Look 4
White Sweater Top: Zara (Same in Look 1)
Beige Coat: Zara
Beige Bag: Zac Posen
Golden White Wide Brim Hat: Lack of Color
White Boots: Amazon
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Wednesday, October 30, 2019

Feminine Skin Care Routine for Healthy, Glowing and Radiant Skin

Feminine Skin Care Routine for Healthy, Glowing and Radiant Skin


Gone are the days when I used to struggle with dry skin during the cooler months. Today, I am sharing my feminine skin care routine for healthy, glowing, supple and radiant skin.
















In-Shower Routine
Soap and Shower Gels: For the shower, I use a bar soap or shower gel. When buying shower soaps or shower gels, I look for non-toxic products with moisturizing properties like olive oil, oats, jojoba oil, etc. I buy my favorite bar soaps from Whole Foods, TJ Maxx, Home Goods and Amazon. I buy my shower gels from Rituals.







Body Scrubs: I love to scrub in the shower to get rid of dead skin cells and revel fresh, healthy and radiant skin. I use sugar body scrubs from Rituals.




I also scrub the skin on my vagina with a more gentle scrub from European Wax Center called Cheeky Strut. Not only does this remove dead skin cells on the skin, it also prevents ingrown hair for women who wax.



Post Shower Routine
Towel: When I get out of the shower, I pat my skin dry with a towel or allow it to air dry. I avoid rubbing the towel as this may be too hard on the skin.






Ingrown Hair Serum: When my skin is dry, I apply European Wax Center's in grown hair serum on the skin on my vagina. In addition to preventing ingrown hair, the serum also moisturizes the skin leaving it soft and supple.






Body Moisturizer: After the serum, I move on to moisturize my body with a body lotion/moisturizer. When buying moisturizers for my body I look for nontoxic products with highly moisturizing properties. My favorite body moisturizer is from lush called Charity Pot. Charity Pot is very moisturizing, nontoxic vegan and cruelty free like all lush products.






Body Oil: Finally, I use a body oil to seal the moisture in. I usually mix the body oil with my moisturizer. This combination leaves my skin, glowing and radiant.






What are some feminine techniques or products you use to keep your skin healthy, glowing and radiant? Please share in the comments, I love to discover new feminine products and techniques.






Thank you for stopping by.


Au-revoir,

Deb

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Friday, October 25, 2019

DVF Francine Colorblock Wrap Dress

DVF Francine Colorblock Wrap Dress


The best style and fashion decision I made in 2019 was to sign up for Rent the Runway on my birthday as a birthday gift to myself. Not only does Rent the Runway make fashion affordable for me it is also a revolutionary concept for recycling. Needless to say this beautiful DVF wrap dress was a recent rent/borrow from Rent the Runway. I wore this dress to work and the men in the Financial District could not stop staring at me. The color, the material, the cut, the fact that it is wrapped makes very feminine and seductive in a very classy way. I absolutely adore this dress. I hate that I had to return it today because I need to clear my slot to borrow looks for Halloween. I am considering buying this dress. It is actually at a discount at Nordstrom rack.









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How Fibroid Changed My Life

How Fibroid Changed My Life




I had fibroid removal surgery in May 2019 and the experience changed my life for the better.


For those who are not familiar with fibroid, it is a benign tumor that grows in a woman's uterus. The symptoms differ from woman to women and they include heavy bleeding, painful periods, and may affect a women's ability to get pregnant and give birth.


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Tuesday, October 22, 2019

Are Limiting Beliefs Affecting Your Romantic Relationships?

Are Limiting Beliefs Affecting Your Romantic Relationships?



Today we are going to have a conversation about limiting beliefs, also known as self-defeating beliefs,  and how they affect romantic relationships. If you are a millennial, I am sure you may have heard of the term limiting belief circling around ---- If you are not a millennial do not feel left out, it will all make sense at the end. While doing research for this article, I came across the simplest definition and explanation of a limiting belief from Allison Fallon’s blog https://allisonfallon.com/limiting-beliefs/ and it reads, “a limiting belief is something you believe to be true about yourself, about others and about the world that limits you in some way. These beliefs may hold you back from taking chances, keep you blind to opportunities  in your path, prevent you from accepting gifts offered to you, or simply keep you stuck focusing on the negative aspect of your circumstances.” I really love the fact that she included this line in her article because I could not have wrote it better, “The challenge with limiting beliefs is most of us don’t think we have them and they can be really hard to spot.  In this article, I will help you to become aware of the limiting beliefs affecting your romantic relationships and get rid of them.

 
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How to Spot Limiting Beliefs Affecting Romantic Relationships

 

I shared my story in details about how I did this myself in my book, Rewrite your History: A Personal Guide to Freedom available on Kindle as an e-book; you can also purchase a paperback copy on Amazon. In my work on myself, I found out that the limiting beliefs affecting my romantic relationships were stemming from my parents relationship. Yours could be from your single girlfriends, a family member, an advisor, your ex, your current romantic partner or a friend you trust. It can also come from the music you listen to, the TV shows you watch or any other form of media you consume. The following is a list of some of the limiting beliefs you may have: there are no good men out there; all men are liars and cheaters; all men will cheat; (expletive) ain’t shit; men will always leave; rich men (people) are evil; I’m going to be lonely for the rest of my life.

 

This is a very limited list but if you believe any of these lines, any variation of these ideas, any negative beliefs that you have surrounding romantic relationships are limiting beliefs that will in turn create life experiences aligned with those beliefs and ideas. For example, if you believe that there are no good men out there, all the men showing up in your life experiences will behave badly or show you that they are no good because that is what you are creating in your thoughts. Those same men could go to a woman who does not have these beliefs and he will act totally different towards her. The next time you say or think something negative towards romantic relationship, ask yourself if it is something you would like to experience in your reality.

 

How to Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs Affecting Romantic Relationships

 

In order to get rid of limiting beliefs, you have to create new beliefs. But how are beliefs formed or created anyways? According to Skilled at Life (http://www.skilledatlife.com/how-beliefs-are-formed-and-how-to-change-them/) , beliefs are generally formed in two ways: by our personal life experiences, conclusions, deductions and inferences; or by accepting what others tell us to be true.” For example, if you have the belief that there aren’t any good men out there” maybe you think your father is not a good man which would be a conclusion you created based on your perception of your life experience with your father. From that belief about your father, you attracted men who are no good throughout your dating experiences. Maybe you read posts multiple times on Facebook about how bad men are which is an example of believing what someone tell us (the world on Facebook). Maybe you see how badly men behave on your favorite reality TV shows or movies and you are in turn creating the same experience in your reality.

 

How to Form New Beliefs on Romantic Relationships

 

Now that we know how to create or form a belief we are going to create empowering beliefs that will propel our romantic lives forward. I would recommend starting with repeating positive phrases about relationships to yourself. You can also form new beliefs with repetition and affirmations. The bible and most religious text teach us the power in what we speak and our thoughts. When you start to speak those words, you will start to create the positive romantic relationship experiences in your life which will serve as a form of life experience. The more you do this, the more you will create positive romantic relationship experiences and before you know it, you have created a new belief system on romantic relationships. So to do this I would recommend the following lines, any positive lines you can imagine or positive romantic experiences you want to create in your life:

  • I always have the best time on a date
  • I am in love with a man who loves, spoils and adores me
  • My man is very caring
  • Men love to spoil me
  • I am married to my dream man
In a relationship you can find creative ways to use those lines with your man, make sure it is sincere and at the right time. For example, if he brought you food from some place, you can say, honey you are so caring, thank you for feeding me. Watch how he reacts in that moment and watch him try to do more little things for you because he loves to hear those words.

 

If you are not in a relationship, you can still use those lines or any positive combinations you can come up with. When you repeat those positive, kind and loving words pay attention to your heart and how it feels. Practice is key. It took many years for you to create the beliefs you have now, it will take practice to get a new belief system on romantic relationships.

 

Consume Positive Media about Romantic Relationships

 

Finally, I would recommend consuming positive media about romantic relationships. I know it may be hard to do this and it will take a lot of will power but positive media on romantic relationships are out there and you should consider consuming more of them. I am not talking about the Disney type where your prince charming will ride on a horse to come save you, I am talking about non magical positive media about romantic relationships. For example, listening to positive beautiful love songs made a huge impact in my journey to get rid of the limiting beliefs I had about romantic relationships.

 

Please share your stories with us and If you have any suggestions about anything you did to get rid of limiting beliefs affecting your romantic relations, leave them in the comments below.

  
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