Ms. Nerdy Chica

A grown woman who has never tried self-pleasure is probably a rare species. (Raising hands) I am a rare species, I've never masturbated, used a vibrator or had any other assistance for self-pleasure. I am not sure if shame had anything to do with it or the perceptions/social stigmas surrounding female sexuality. I was excited when Vush reached out to me to try their Empress, a clitorial stimulator. Vush's mission is to change perceptions and break social stigmas surrounding female sexuality. Before I share my experience with the Empress, here are some quick features about the Empress.

The Empress has:

My Experience with the Empress by Vush

Most of my girlfriends use a vibrator and have always joked about how fast you can climax using a vibrator. Well let's just say the Empress, the clitorial stimulator definitely surpassed my expectations for a fast climax experience. As I beginner, I started with the lowest suction setting. I increased the suction level settings once I got comfortable with it. 

Then BOOM,  I had climaxed in a bit over 2 minutes. I burst with laughter when I climaxed. You can watch my realtime reaction in the video below. I called the Empress my 2 minutes best friend. 

Honestly, I love and support Vush's movement to break the stigma. The Empress (my new best friend) is definitely worth the purchase (the features are amazing and I love the cute packaging). It is great for first-timers like me who are new to using sex toys. 

If you are interested in a new best friend 'The Empress' or any other products on Vush's website, jump on their website https://www.vushstimulation.com/.

Remember to use my code: Deb65 for 65% off of your Empress.

Follow them on their movement on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/vush_official/ and together we can break the stigma against female sexuality!

Self-pleasure is now a part of my self-careroutine. Is self-pleasure a part of your self-care routine? Please share in the comments.

Au-revoir

There a million articles out there on how to look expensive on a budget, how to look elegant on a budget. While they offer great advice that I also use, this article will expand further on those ideas giving you insider tricks you have not heard before and at the end of the article I will share my ultimate tip to look elegant and expensive on a budget. read the article till the end for my ultimate trick.

 1. The Neutral Wardrobe

Starting with probably the most popular advice which is to wear neutral colors. This is great advice, I also have a very neutral base for my wardrobe, however, I also have pops of red, pinks and peaches in my wardrobe because I find that those colors make me pop, they truly make me sparkle. For example, red is my favorite color to wear because when I wear red, my face instantly looks brighter, my eyes look brighter, my teeth look brighter, my skin glows differently and I just look healthy. My advice would be to find colors that make you pop, colors that make you sparkle and sprinkle those colors into your wardrobe. I love this trick because looking expensive and elegant is all about looking your best without looking like you tried very hard. It’s a very subtle thing that kind of becomes your essence in a sense. Having colors that make you sparkle will instantly make you look like you are just elegant and expensive effortlessly without trying. The try hard look is not elegant or expensive.

 2.  Tailoring

Another popular advice is tailoring your clothes. This is again great advice that I also follow but there is one thing that I have been doing that helps me save money from tailoring which is shopping for clothing that are optimal for my body type. For example, I am an hourglass which technically means that I can pretty much wear anything that I want, but I am very petite, 5’3 with long legs and a short torso along with curves. I usually go for garments that are already tailored and structured in cut like the red blazer below. I also love a feminine silhouette, so I go for garments that cinches in at the waist and flares out at the bottom. Finally I love bodycon dresses and pencil skirts to play up my curves. My advice would be to figure out your body type and shop clothing that will accentuate your best features. There are times when you will absolutely need a tailor for certain pieces but shopping for garments that are optimal for your body type and will save you time and money from tailoring.

 3. Expensive Looking Fabrics, Fibers and Materials

Another popular advice is to train your eyes for expensive looking fabrics in your garments and accessories, the stitching and craftsmanship. The rule of thumb for me is to look for fabrics and materials that look closely related to natural fibers and materials. When shopping on the high street at stores like Zara, And Other Stories, Topshop, etc. I look for materials that look like leather, wool, silk, cashmere, cotton, linen, chiffon which is a made from cotton or silk.

 4. Shopping Preloved Fashion

Another popular advice is to shop preloved fashion. This is again great advice that I also follow. My favorite trick when shopping pre loved at thrift stores or consignment stores is to shop in affluent neighborhoods where people who have money live because those are the people who will most likely donate to those stores or sell to the consignment store. The likelihood of finding something that is expensive or looks expensive is higher in those neighborhoods.

 5. Fashion Maintenance

One of my favorite tricks is to take care of my clothing and accessories. Doing things like ironing your clothes adds to your expensive, effortless and elegant look. One of my favorite tricks to take care of garments that I buy from high street stores like Zara is to wash them and air dry them. Airdrying helps tremendously with high street fashion because some of the garments tend to shrink. Airdrying helps prevent shrinkage. You can end up wearing something that you would otherwise wear a couple of times longer. It is one of my favorite secret tricks.

    6. Mixing Highs and Lows

Another one of my favorite tricks is to mix highs and lows. I love designer accessories. When you are finished reading this article, you can check out my recent YouTube video where I shared 5 tips and tricks to save money when buying designer fashion. I like to splurge on designer accessories to elevate my high street fashion finds.

 7. Grooming

Now that you have all the elegant and expensive garment looking wardrobe, let’s discuss grooming. Grooming is a very important part of looking elegant and expensive on a budget. I would honestly say if you have to choose where to spend your money if you are on a very tight budget it should be your grooming. Things like your hair, nails and skin should always look good. Skipping grooming is a big mistake, it’s truly a waste of your time to put so much effort into your outfit but have chipped nails, ashy skin and bad hair. Believe me I made those mistakes in the past which is why I think it is very important to add this into the list. To save money on your grooming, you can DIY a lot of it. You can learn how to do your nails, hair and take care of your skin on YouTube, You might be interested in my skincare for healthy and glowing skin video.

 8. Smelling Good

Smelling good – You can have an expensive and elegant looking outfit with nice hair, nice nails and healthy glowing skin but if you smell bad, it throws your work in the garbage because you will not be perceived expensive or elegant. Again you do not have to spend a lot of money here. I have a video coming up, "How to Smell Expensive on a Budget." I am very excited to share  this video because I have a huge secret to share with you in that video that will save you so much money on fragrances. Subscribe to my YouTube channel and turn on the notification bell to be notified when I upload that video. You can also DIY your perfume. Perfuming is a very feminine hobby that I want to try this year. You can even use perfume oils but make sure you always smell good.  

 9. Renting Designer Fashion

My ultimate trick to look expensive and elegant on a budget is to rent my fashion. I am speaking about renting designer garments and accessories. I use a rental service called Rent the Runway. I am obsessed with this service and believe renting fashion should be the next big wave in fashion because not only does it help us save money from buying clothes, it helps us to have more space in our closets it is also a more sustainable approach for the environment. Instead of having to buy fashion and get rid of them, we can rent it, a million other people can use the same items with having to get rid of it. I think that is genius. There are websites that also rent high end designer bags, I am talking about Hermes, Chanel, etc. Yes there is a fee attached to these services but it is a lot cheaper than buying for me. I think this is a personal choice and you might want to do the math to see if you save more renting v. buying.

1.  Saging

2. Burning Essential Oils

Burning essential oil is somewhat a similar ritual to saging because burning the correct oil or combination of oils can help mitigate or elevate certain emotions depending on your needs. They can help you de-stress, feel energized, cheer you up, eliminate anger and instill a positive atmosphere. It also promotes better sleep, clears the lung and supports respiratory health and provide mental clarity.

3. Meditation

4. Dancing

Yes, I know dancing really activates and magnetizes your feminine energy. It connects you to the more sensual side of yourself. It also connects you to your heart chakra. I like to put on my favorite songs and just dance in the mirror. Sometimes I like to do it in my underwear and just admire my body, the way it moves so beautifully. Sometimes I imagine dancing with a special someone and truly savor what that feels like.

5. Listening to Soft and Feminine Music

Music is a very powerful medium and listening to the right music will instantly elevate your mood. Listening to soft music, soothing music, positive music that portrays women in a positive light can activate and magnetize your feminine energy. My favorite types of music are Jazz and Chansonette Francaise.

 

Conclusion

 

Thank you for stopping by.

 

Au-revoir,

Deb

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1. Use non-toxic shower gels, soaps and moisturizers or body lotions because nontoxic products do not have harsh chemicals that will dry out your skin.

 

2. Look for shower gels, soaps and moisturizers or body lotions that have moisturizing properties in them like oats, shea butter, coconut oil, olive oil, jojoba oil or any other moisturizing properties you can think of like @edenbodyworks ‘s trio (a body wash, body lotion and hand cream) that is infused with coconut oil, shea butter and vitamin E.

3. Use a body scrub 2 to 3 times a week

 

4. Mix your body lotion with a body oil

5. Keep a good hand cream in your handbag. I love @EdenBodyworks hand cream, not only is it moisturizing, it also smells very natural. it smells like shea butter and coconut, I cannot stop sniffing my hands every time I apply it.

Eden’s bodyworks is available at edenbodyworks.com , Walmart, Amazon, Target and Sally Beauty, Rite Aid, CVS #glowingallyear

When I initially noticed white boots trending last winter, I thought Meh… not my style, too trendy. But After seeing it for the millionth time, I wanted to give it a try. Today, I will share my tips and tricks to style and class up the white boots that I recently picked up from amazon and hopefully inspire you to give the white boots trend a try.

1. Monochromatic White 

The white after labor day conversation is for amateurs, we do not speak on that here, lol. A monochromatic look is a look that contains one color. A monochromatic look is always a win, whenever you want to look effortlessly chic and put together. White on white is super chic. When doing a monochromatic white look you can play with different textures and different shades of white.

Sometimes the white boots look can look like a cowgirl chic look even if the boot itself is not a cowboy boot. To make sure my white boots look does not make me look like a cowgirl, I pair it with feminine silhouettes like the skirt in the image above or the skirt suit look in the image below.

When I saw Zara selling white boots for about $200, I thought it was too expensive for something that I would be limited to pairing with my white looks. However, when I got my pair of white boots from Amazon and decided to try it with feminine colors, it looked great with them.

White boots look amazing with other neutral colors like camel, grey, beige, and black. Personally, I would wear a monochromatic look with a neutral color and add the white boots as a pop. For example I would wear a monochromatic grey look or a monochromatic black look with the white boots.

 

Petite Girl Tip: Avoid wearing white boots with short dresses, short skirts, short pants or short jackets it will make you look even shorter.

 

Did you trying the white boots trend? If so, please share your styling tips and tricks, we would love to learn from you.

Look 1

Off White Sweater Skirt and Top: Zara

Gold Belt: Zara

White Boots: Amazon

Red Bag: Zac Posen

Look 2

Check Print Mini Skirt Suit: &otherstories

White Boots: Amazon

Golden White Wide Brim Hat: Lack of Color

Red Bag: Mackage

Look 3

Pink Coat: Tahari from Nordstrom Rack

White Hat: Lack of Color

White Boots: Amazon

Sunglasses: Rayban (Style: Aviator)

Look 4

White Sweater Top: Zara (Same in Look 1)

Beige Coat: Zara

Beige Bag: Zac Posen

Golden White Wide Brim Hat: Lack of Color
White Boots: Amazon

Gone are the days when I used to struggle with dry skin during the cooler months. Today, I am sharing my feminine skin care routine for healthy, glowing, supple and radiant skin.

In-Shower Routine

Soap and Shower Gels: For the shower, I use a bar soap or shower gel. When buying shower soaps or shower gels, I look for non-toxic products with moisturizing properties like olive oil, oats, jojoba oil, etc. I buy my favorite bar soaps from Whole Foods, TJ Maxx, Home Goods and Amazon. I buy my shower gels from Rituals.

Body Scrubs: I love to scrub in the shower to get rid of dead skin cells and revel fresh, healthy and radiant skin. I use sugar body scrubs from Rituals.

I also scrub the skin on my vagina with a more gentle scrub from European Wax Center called Cheeky Strut. Not only does this remove dead skin cells on the skin, it also prevents ingrown hair for women who wax.

Post Shower Routine

Towel: When I get out of the shower, I pat my skin dry with a towel or allow it to air dry. I avoid rubbing the towel as this may be too hard on the skin.

Ingrown Hair Serum: When my skin is dry, I apply European Wax Center's in grown hair serum on the skin on my vagina. In addition to preventing ingrown hair, the serum also moisturizes the skin leaving it soft and supple.

Body Moisturizer: After the serum, I move on to moisturize my body with a body lotion/moisturizer. When buying moisturizers for my body I look for nontoxic products with highly moisturizing properties. My favorite body moisturizer is from lush called Charity Pot. Charity Pot is very moisturizing, nontoxic vegan and cruelty free like all lush products.

Body Oil: Finally, I use a body oil to seal the moisture in. I usually mix the body oil with my moisturizer. This combination leaves my skin, glowing and radiant.

What are some feminine techniques or products you use to keep your skin healthy, glowing and radiant? Please share in the comments, I love to discover new feminine products and techniques.

Thank you for stopping by.

Au-revoir,