Saturday, July 18, 2020

LOFT Try-On Haul Everything 40%-70% Off

LOFT Try-On Haul Everything 40%-70% Off

I went shopping!

Hello lovely ladies, welcome back to the blog. Today I am sharing what I bought from Loft recently and how I style them. I hope you enjoy!

Linen Jumpsuit Linen Blazer Lou and Grey Beige Sweater White Bermuda Shorts White Denim Button Down Skirt I could not find the basic blouse online but I found a similar one here
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Wednesday, April 15, 2020

I Tried Personal Pleasure for the First Time Feat. Vush Empress Clitoral Stimulator

I Tried Personal Pleasure for the First Time Feat. Vush Empress Clitoral Stimulator

A grown woman who has never tried self-pleasure is probably a rare species. (Raising hands) I am a rare species, I've never masturbated, used a vibrator or had any other assistance for self-pleasure. I am not sure if shame had anything to do with it or the perceptions/social stigmas surrounding female sexuality. I was excited when Vush reached out to me to try their Empress, a clitorial stimulator. Vush's mission is to change perceptions and break social stigmas surrounding female sexuality. Before I share my experience with the Empress, here are some quick features about the Empress.

The Empress has:
  • a Vacuum technology, which is so different from the traditional sex toys (vibrators)
  • 8 different suction settings
  • USB Rechargeable
  • Amazing for solo & couples play
  • 100 % Waterproof (for those who want to use it in their bathtime)
  • Discreet Packaging (I love the packaging as it is so luxurious and cute.  It reminds me of a beauty product)
  • FREE international shipping
  • 6 Month Warranty
  • Use my code: DEB65 for 65% off the Empress @vush_official

My Experience with the Empress by Vush

Most of my girlfriends use a vibrator and have always joked about how fast you can climax using a vibrator. Well let's just say the Empress, the clitorial stimulator definitely surpassed my expectations for a fast climax experience. As I beginner, I started with the lowest suction setting. I increased the suction level settings once I got comfortable with it. 

Then BOOM,  I had climaxed in a bit over 2 minutes. I burst with laughter when I climaxed. You can watch my realtime reaction in the video below. I called the Empress my 2 minutes best friend. 

Honestly, I love and support Vush's movement to break the stigma. The Empress (my new best friend) is definitely worth the purchase (the features are amazing and I love the cute packaging). It is great for first-timers like me who are new to using sex toys. 

If you are interested in a new best friend 'The Empress' or any other products on Vush's website, jump on their website

Remember to use my code: Deb65 for 65% off of your Empress.

Follow them on their movement on Instagram and together we can break the stigma against female sexuality!

Self-pleasure is now a part of my self-careroutine. Is self-pleasure a part of your self-care routine? Please share in the comments.


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Thursday, January 2, 2020

How to Look Elegant and Expensive on a Budget

How to Look Elegant and Expensive on a Budget

There a million articles out there on how to look expensive on a budget, how to look elegant on a budget. While they offer great advice that I also use, this article will expand further on those ideas giving you insider tricks you have not heard before and at the end of the article I will share my ultimate tip to look elegant and expensive on a budget. read the article till the end for my ultimate trick.

 1. The Neutral Wardrobe

Starting with probably the most popular advice which is to wear neutral colors. This is great advice, I also have a very neutral base for my wardrobe, however, I also have pops of red, pinks and peaches in my wardrobe because I find that those colors make me pop, they truly make me sparkle. For example, red is my favorite color to wear because when I wear red, my face instantly looks brighter, my eyes look brighter, my teeth look brighter, my skin glows differently and I just look healthy. My advice would be to find colors that make you pop, colors that make you sparkle and sprinkle those colors into your wardrobe. I love this trick because looking expensive and elegant is all about looking your best without looking like you tried very hard. It’s a very subtle thing that kind of becomes your essence in a sense. Having colors that make you sparkle will instantly make you look like you are just elegant and expensive effortlessly without trying. The try hard look is not elegant or expensive.

 2.  Tailoring

Another popular advice is tailoring your clothes. This is again great advice that I also follow but there is one thing that I have been doing that helps me save money from tailoring which is shopping for clothing that are optimal for my body type. For example, I am an hourglass which technically means that I can pretty much wear anything that I want, but I am very petite, 5’3 with long legs and a short torso along with curves. I usually go for garments that are already tailored and structured in cut like the red blazer below. I also love a feminine silhouette, so I go for garments that cinches in at the waist and flares out at the bottom. Finally I love bodycon dresses and pencil skirts to play up my curves. My advice would be to figure out your body type and shop clothing that will accentuate your best features. There are times when you will absolutely need a tailor for certain pieces but shopping for garments that are optimal for your body type and will save you time and money from tailoring.

 3. Expensive Looking Fabrics, Fibers and Materials

Another popular advice is to train your eyes for expensive looking fabrics in your garments and accessories, the stitching and craftsmanship. The rule of thumb for me is to look for fabrics and materials that look closely related to natural fibers and materials. When shopping on the high street at stores like Zara, And Other Stories, Topshop, etc. I look for materials that look like leather, wool, silk, cashmere, cotton, linen, chiffon which is a made from cotton or silk.

 4. Shopping Preloved Fashion

Another popular advice is to shop preloved fashion. This is again great advice that I also follow. My favorite trick when shopping pre loved at thrift stores or consignment stores is to shop in affluent neighborhoods where people who have money live because those are the people who will most likely donate to those stores or sell to the consignment store. The likelihood of finding something that is expensive or looks expensive is higher in those neighborhoods.

 5. Fashion Maintenance

One of my favorite tricks is to take care of my clothing and accessories. Doing things like ironing your clothes adds to your expensive, effortless and elegant look. One of my favorite tricks to take care of garments that I buy from high street stores like Zara is to wash them and air dry them. Airdrying helps tremendously with high street fashion because some of the garments tend to shrink. Airdrying helps prevent shrinkage. You can end up wearing something that you would otherwise wear a couple of times longer. It is one of my favorite secret tricks.

    6. Mixing Highs and Lows
Another one of my favorite tricks is to mix highs and lows. I love designer accessories. When you are finished reading this article, you can check out my recent YouTube video where I shared 5 tips and tricks to save money when buying designer fashion. I like to splurge on designer accessories to elevate my high street fashion finds.

 7. Grooming

Now that you have all the elegant and expensive garment looking wardrobe, let’s discuss grooming. Grooming is a very important part of looking elegant and expensive on a budget. I would honestly say if you have to choose where to spend your money if you are on a very tight budget it should be your grooming. Things like your hair, nails and skin should always look good. Skipping grooming is a big mistake, it’s truly a waste of your time to put so much effort into your outfit but have chipped nails, ashy skin and bad hair. Believe me I made those mistakes in the past which is why I think it is very important to add this into the list. To save money on your grooming, you can DIY a lot of it. You can learn how to do your nails, hair and take care of your skin on YouTube, You might be interested in my skincare for healthy and glowing skin video.

 8. Smelling Good

Smelling good – You can have an expensive and elegant looking outfit with nice hair, nice nails and healthy glowing skin but if you smell bad, it throws your work in the garbage because you will not be perceived expensive or elegant. Again you do not have to spend a lot of money here. I have a video coming up, "How to Smell Expensive on a Budget." I am very excited to share  this video because I have a huge secret to share with you in that video that will save you so much money on fragrances. Subscribe to my YouTube channel and turn on the notification bell to be notified when I upload that video. You can also DIY your perfume. Perfuming is a very feminine hobby that I want to try this year. You can even use perfume oils but make sure you always smell good.  

 9. Renting Designer Fashion

My ultimate trick to look expensive and elegant on a budget is to rent my fashion. I am speaking about renting designer garments and accessories. I use a rental service called Rent the Runway. I am obsessed with this service and believe renting fashion should be the next big wave in fashion because not only does it help us save money from buying clothes, it helps us to have more space in our closets it is also a more sustainable approach for the environment. Instead of having to buy fashion and get rid of them, we can rent it, a million other people can use the same items with having to get rid of it. I think that is genius. There are websites that also rent high end designer bags, I am talking about Hermes, Chanel, etc. Yes there is a fee attached to these services but it is a lot cheaper than buying for me. I think this is a personal choice and you might want to do the math to see if you save more renting v. buying.
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Friday, December 27, 2019

How I Activate and Magnetize my Feminine Energy

How I Activate and Magnetize my Feminine Energy

Bonjour, Bonsoir,
Welcome to the blog. Today, I am sharing my 5 step routine to activate and magnetize my feminine energy.
A few months ago I shared the video below on my YouTube channel (ClassbyDeb) where I shared my 3 step routine to activate and magnetize my feminine energy but I forgot to mention 2 other rituals that also contribute to activating and magnetizing my feminine energy. Also, before I start this article, I want you to keep in mind that it is very hard to explain energy because it is a feeling and my attempt at explaining how these rituals activate and magnetize my feminine energy is very limited. The best way to experience and understand what I am sharing is to do it yourself and experience the benefits for yourself.

1.  Saging
Saging is the act of burning sage, to cleanse yourself, your space or your environment. It is an ancient spiritual ritual that is popular among Native Americans. Saging is used for many purposes, among them to connect the spiritual realm and enhance intuition, it is used to achieve a healing state and solve/reflect upon spiritual dilemma. It improves and uplifts your mood, treats anxiety and depression, and helps soothe stress. It helps you sleep better and has a divine aroma.
It’s good to set your intentions when saging for example: I am saging to rid myself or my space of negative energy. I am saging to uplift my mood, etc.
How to Sage:
Open your window, light the sage, let it burn. You will see fume emanating from the dry leaves, go around your body or around your home even in all the corners while taking deep breaths, holding them in and releasing them. If you are saging to get rid of negative energy, breathe in positive energy and release negative energy with every exhale.
Disclaimer: People with asthma or other respiratory conditions should check with your doctor before engaging in this practice.
Saging activates and magnetizes one’s feminine energy because when you clear yourself of all of the negative energy you are now left with positive energy and all good energy from within including your divine feminine energy that you were born with. When I burn sage it instantly magnetizes my feminine energy and uplifts my mood, it even affects people who come in contact with me or with my space in a positive way.
When should you do this? I do it as often as my intuition guides me to do it. I sage when I feel my energy is out of balance. Often, I do it before a first date. I sage after any arguments that occur in my space or If a stranger comes to visit my space. The rule of thumb is to go with your intuition and sage when it feels right.

2. Burning Essential Oils

Burning essential oil is somewhat a similar ritual to saging because burning the correct oil or combination of oils can help mitigate or elevate certain emotions depending on your needs. They can help you de-stress, feel energized, cheer you up, eliminate anger and instill a positive atmosphere. It also promotes better sleep, clears the lung and supports respiratory health and provide mental clarity.
How To Burn Essential Oils:
Fill an oil diffuser with water along with a few drops of your favorite essential oils. There is a vast selection and you can choose based on what you plan to accomplish. For example, I burn rose oil when I feel down or lonely to manifest self-love into my life, my energy and aura.
Self-love is an instant feminine energy magnetizer, there is nothing more feminine than a woman radiating self-love.

3. Meditation
Meditation instantly connects you to the divine, God, the universe. There are many studies about the various benefits of meditation, it helps beyond activating one’s feminine energy. Some meditation practices increase positive feelings and actions towards yourself and others; reduce stress; control anxiety; improve emotional health; give an improved self-image and a more positive outlook on life; and improve self-awareness.
How to Meditate:
Take a deep breath in, hold it and focus on the breath, notice the way your body reacts to the breath, observe the breath for as long as you can, then let it out. Repeat for as long as you need to until you reach a blissful, trans-like state. You can be as creative as you like with the types of meditations you choose one of my favorites for activating my feminine energy is loving-kindness meditation or Metta. It begins with developing kind thoughts and feelings toward yourself. With practice Metta will help you increase compassion towards yourself and others.
I also like to combine meditation with saging as well. When I burn my sage to rid myself of negative energy, I take a deep breath in and say to myself, I am breathing in positive energy and when I let the breath out I say to myself, I release negative energy.
My favorite thing about meditation is that you can meditate anywhere. I try to meditate every day.

4. Dancing

Yes, I know dancing really activates and magnetizes your feminine energy. It connects you to the more sensual side of yourself. It also connects you to your heart chakra. I like to put on my favorite songs and just dance in the mirror. Sometimes I like to do it in my underwear and just admire my body, the way it moves so beautifully. Sometimes I imagine dancing with a special someone and truly savor what that feels like.

5. Listening to Soft and Feminine Music

Music is a very powerful medium and listening to the right music will instantly elevate your mood. Listening to soft music, soothing music, positive music that portrays women in a positive light can activate and magnetize your feminine energy. My favorite types of music are Jazz and Chansonette Francaise.

Saging, burning essential oils, meditation, dancing and listening to soft and feminine music  are my 5 rituals/practices to activate my magnetic feminine energy. You can do one or any combination of these rituals and watch what happens. If you try some of these, let me know how it works for you.  Also please share anything that you do to activate and magnetize your feminine energy in the comments. We would love to learn from you.
Thank you for stopping by.
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Thursday, November 21, 2019

Career Advice from Oprah

Career Advice from Oprah

On this beautiful Thursday, I wanted to share an inspirational interview that Oprah participated in at Stanford University. For me, the interview was focused on career and making career decisions. This may be my limited view on it because I am at a time where I am making major career decisions.


My biggest takeaway from the interview is this, we are all striving to be the best and highest version of ourselves. When we find out who we are at the core, connect to our core and listen to our inner voice we inevitably become the best and highest version of ourselves and we can use this in any and every career path we choose.


Oprah articulated my idea of who I am and what I am here to do very clearly in this interview. I always knew that I was different from most people that I come in contact with, the way I see things differently, the way I relate to people differently and for a long time I have been afraid of that because I thought if I am not like them and I don’t think like them they won’t like me and I will miss out on the opportunity to feel like I belong which is something we all strive for. But now I am seeing clearly that, that very thing is my gift. It is my gift to the world to present and share ideas that may not be similar to yours or the people I come in contact with but I still want the people I share my ideas with to be able to hear me even if they don’t understand or cannot relate immediately. My role here on this earth is to share ideas of self-empowerment with my generation that they may not have heard of or have been exposed to. For example in my book, "Rewrite your History" – I presented the idea that the same way we can manifest good things like wealth, love and prosperity with the Law of Attraction is the same way we manifest the bad things in our lives like misery, despair and poverty with the law of attraction. The law of attraction is always working whether we know it or not, whether we believe it or not. We are attracting every interaction, every circumstance, every relationship, every job, every family circumstance, everything you can think of in your life you have attracted and are attracting.


Oprah mentioned intentions and credited her show becoming great because she set intentions and decided which show to choose based on the intentions of that show. When you “Rewrite your History” you become intentional about what you are attracting in your life. When you “Rewrite your History” life doesn’t just happen to you, you tell life what you want it to do in alignment with who you are. It’s like getting behind the wheel of a car to the destination of your best/highest self and directing the places where you want to go, where you stop, the snacks you buy on the way there, and everything in between. When you “Rewrite your History”, you know that you do not have to stop at the stop light that some other person created because that is not part of your route or journey to your destination to the best and highest version of yourself. Also, the fact that she mentioned listening to your inner voice a few times in the interview and how important it is gave me the validation I needed to promote “Rewrite your History” because in the book when I shared the steps to write your new story AKA “Rewrite your History,” listening to your inner voice is one of the steps I suggested. Who am I coming up with ideas that the Oprah herself finds important?


I am typing those words feeling like I am speaking to myself and giving myself that advice, God knows I need it now. Anyways, let me know in the comments what is coming up for you while watching the interview. I always find it interesting and fascinating the way two people may watch the same interview or listen to the same song but receive completely different messages.


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Monday, November 18, 2019

5 Steps To Get Rid of Ashy Skin this Winter Season

5 Steps To Get Rid of Ashy Skin this Winter Season

Today I am sharing my 5 step system to get rid of dry and ashy skin for the winter season. I shared a more in depth skin care post here that you might enjoy.
1. Use non-toxic shower gels, soaps and moisturizers or body lotions because nontoxic products do not have harsh chemicals that will dry out your skin.
2. Look for shower gels, soaps and moisturizers or body lotions that have moisturizing properties in them like oats, shea butter, coconut oil, olive oil, jojoba oil or any other moisturizing properties you can think of like @edenbodyworks ‘s trio (a body wash, body lotion and hand cream) that is infused with coconut oil, shea butter and vitamin E.

3. Use a body scrub 2 to 3 times a week
4. Mix your body lotion with a body oil

5. Keep a good hand cream in your handbag. I love @EdenBodyworks hand cream, not only is it moisturizing, it also smells very natural. it smells like shea butter and coconut, I cannot stop sniffing my hands every time I apply it.

This blogpost is in collaboration with Eden Body Works. When Eden Body Works reached out to me about the trio the first question I asked was are the products non-toxic. Not only did I find out that they were non-toxic, I also learned that their products are all natural and cruelty free.

Eden’s bodyworks is available at , Walmart, Amazon, Target and Sally Beauty, Rite Aid, CVS #glowingallyear

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Tuesday, November 5, 2019

How to Style White Boots

How to Style White Boots

When I initially noticed white boots trending last winter, I thought Meh… not my style, too trendy. But After seeing it for the millionth time, I wanted to give it a try. Today, I will share my tips and tricks to style and class up the white boots that I recently picked up from amazon and hopefully inspire you to give the white boots trend a try.
1. Monochromatic White 

The white after labor day conversation is for amateurs, we do not speak on that here, lol. A monochromatic look is a look that contains one color. A monochromatic look is always a win, whenever you want to look effortlessly chic and put together. White on white is super chic. When doing a monochromatic white look you can play with different textures and different shades of white.

 2. Feminine Silhouettes

Sometimes the white boots look can look like a cowgirl chic look even if the boot itself is not a cowboy boot. To make sure my white boots look does not make me look like a cowgirl, I pair it with feminine silhouettes like the skirt in the image above or the skirt suit look in the image below.

 3. Feminine Colors

When I saw Zara selling white boots for about $200, I thought it was too expensive for something that I would be limited to pairing with my white looks. However, when I got my pair of white boots from Amazon and decided to try it with feminine colors, it looked great with them.

 4. Neutral Color

White boots look amazing with other neutral colors like camel, grey, beige, and black. Personally, I would wear a monochromatic look with a neutral color and add the white boots as a pop. For example I would wear a monochromatic grey look or a monochromatic black look with the white boots.


Petite Girl Tip: Avoid wearing white boots with short dresses, short skirts, short pants or short jackets it will make you look even shorter.


Did you trying the white boots trend? If so, please share your styling tips and tricks, we would love to learn from you.


Look 1
Off White Sweater Skirt and Top: Zara
Gold Belt: Zara
Red Bag: Zac Posen

Look 2
Check Print Mini Skirt Suit: &otherstories
Golden White Wide Brim Hat: Lack of Color
Red Bag: Mackage

Look 3
Pink Coat: Tahari from Nordstrom Rack
White Hat: Lack of Color
Sunglasses: Rayban (Style: Aviator)

Look 4
White Sweater Top: Zara (Same in Look 1)
Beige Coat: Zara
Beige Bag: Zac Posen
Golden White Wide Brim Hat: Lack of Color
White Boots: Amazon
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